Indian parents are often against dating because they feel that as more experienced people they would be able to make a better choice of a match for you through an arranged marriage. Don't forget, while boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, parents are forever. Originally Posted by Prescious. The best is still to come, so don't worry. But I guess he never knew what his parents were capable of and he was probably running the relationship on a risk somewhere keeping me in dark.. that "he'll try once, if not, then he'll see" kind of attitude.. All this is breaking me up right now! They said he is a loser, common, trailer trash, a nobody, that I'm going to ruin my life, that they would never accept white people as their in-laws and how wrong relationships before marriage are. Even if they did not, it is my life, not theirs, and they should be happy with my decision. And while doing so don't be rebellious but try to emphasize more on your thoughts, your philosophy for marriage & life. If your parents are still stubborn and adamant not to support your decision, you can involve your extended family i. e. your relatives. Do not make ultimatums or demands or get pouty if he doesn't want to be more serious; that gives him to much significance, which he does not deserve yet. So might as well go for him. Ask Sahaj: My parents are 'obsessing' over who I marry - The. If you are unwilling to stop seeing your boyfriend, keep bringing the topic up to your parents. Because every man here wants a woman who is fairer and prettier.
Frankly, he was something else on call, I understand he was stressed out, but he never talked with me like this. Why are Indian parents against dating?
The more support you get from your own close relatives, that much more your parents would try to understand and get the courage to support you. Or, marrying within your race, culture, and faith is the only way to maintain connections to your cultural roots. They threatened me they weren't going to talk to me ever if I married him.
If they approve, they might be willing to talk to your parents and try to persuade them, too. Then the boyfriend's behavior changed. In fact, he is not even willing to disclose our relationship to his parents and he under tremendous pressure to get married to any girl his family chooses for him. I do not want to meet any of these guys, considering I feel like I have found the one. She said in a relationship between a man and a woman, the man should be more advanced in age than the woman. I have to, or I will give too much. Detailed information about all U. Indian parents and dating. S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site:. Dealing With Special Circumstances. It could happen that s/he also may not be convinced and could be in a shock after your confession. You arent that special. Many parents' fears are well-founded. So if a person didn't love and accept you at the right time, then is there a point in getting married to such a person?
But the thing here is, he belongs to a very conservative family. You need to forget about him too. "When I asked about all the promises he made, he said he was immature all this time, now he has become practical. Beyond him, there is nothing more to you anyway. But it's not at all too late you at all.
I asked him this question many times, he always was so genuine in replying that his family was very strict and his parents would not approve this if we ever tell them before the time of getting married. HELP! My parents won't let me marry the guy I love | Love, Friendship, Dating & Relationships. "His dad said it is decision of elders and my bf is okay with it. " Originally he told me it could not happen in his family until we were very serious (right before getting engaged). Practicing what you'll say to them can make it easier.
5Discuss the matter with your boyfriend. This is because those who feel this strongly about marrying into their culture tend to view your relationship as bringing shame to the family. Only with time and introspection can we hope to learn what we really want and make ourselves happy again. You've already got everything you need to do that. You need an independent, worldly man. 2Understand their role. How do I bring up to my Indian parents that I have an Indian boyfriend (nothing wrong with him, just not sure how to bring up conversation. Dear Niki: I am sorry you are experiencing such pain and devastation. If you try to hide or lie about something, your parents may become suspicious and anxious. For instance, if you grew up as a "daddy's girl, " meaning you can now wrap him around your little finger, you might start with your dad. No, you're wasting your time. Because he cannot keep denying his heart if it hurts.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. I don't know what would they have done if they came to know about 7 years.. Also, all my social media accounts are pouring with my friends getting engaged or married or completing 4-5 mark of relationship.. All this is so much depressing. Ask your parents if they would be willing to meet with your bf/gf and have them explain their reservations to him/her. What if My Parents Don't Approve of My BF/GF? Gradually things will start getting to be in place and soon you will realize that this was just a learning and a passing phase of your life. But finally, their parents got convinced and they are happily married. My mom's ex had a stroke, and made their son believe it was because of our relationship. Indian boyfriend won't tell parents. Don't try to dominate the conversation but also listen to your parent.